It's easy to fall into a trap of believing that the desire for sex and intimacy always works the same for everyone. We feel aroused, we connect and have sex, right? Because sexual desire and intimacy can happen so effortlessly in the beginning of a relationship, it’s natural to believe it will always stay that way.
The problem is we all have different sexual needs and styles. Knowing yours —and your partner's —can change your sex life and your relationship.
As differences emerge and sex becomes less satisfying we have to understand and adapt to those changes. Perhaps men are designed to have indiscriminate sex and women are more selective. Maybe men just want sex but women must have intimacy and connection.
Truth is, it's not nearly that simple. And the differences in sexual styles are not strictly male vs. female. What makes one man desire sex can be vastly different than another man—and the same for women.
Your hormones, personal history, relationship status, sexual techniques, as well your personal habits can influence sexual style, satisfaction, and ultimately the course of your relationship. This is why having good information is so important.
Our new series Sex, Desire & Relationships is packed full of research and information to help you — whether single or coupled — be more savvy about sex and relationships.